3 teenage girls are in a meadow with an adult man who appears to be an outdoor educator. They are examining something that the educator is holding in his hands that appears to be something found in nature. They are wearing backpacks and hiking gear.

PARENTS & GUARDIANS

Parents/Guardians

"My hope is that in fifty years we'll have a generation that has grown up their whole lives hearing about consent and boundaries."
Tarana Burke, Activist and Founder of the #MeToo Movement

“Don’t teach your son that girls are meant to be protected. Teach him that he has to create a world where girls don’t have to be afraid of anyone.”
-Rituparna Ghosh,
Indian film director, actor, writer and lyricist.

Parents and guardians and the environment they create in their home can have significant influence over whether or not their child will: 1) perpetrate sexual violence; 2) feel safe telling if they are ever sexually harmed; or 3) ask them questions about sex and sexuality. The Centers for Disease Control & Prevention list risk factors for perpetrating sexual violence including: a family environment characterized by physical violence and conflict, a childhood history of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, an emotionally unsupportive family environment, and poor parent-child relationships, particularly with fathers. Similarly, kids are more likely to talk to someone about sexual violence, sex, and sexuality with someone they trust, and with whom they have healthy and safe communication. To learn more about ways in which you can be an ally for your child and in your community, please see the resources below.

MEN AS ALLIES

When we talk about sexual violence, it is girls and women who most often come to mind. When we think about prevention, we often think “don’t walk alone, carry pepper spray, take self defense class,” etc. - continuing to focus on what women and girls should do. However 91-99% of sex offenders are men. To end sexual violence, boys and men MUST take the lead in redefining masculinity, uplifting gender equity, and holding other boys and men accountable for sexist jokes and sexually, physically, and emotionally abusive behaviors towards their dating and marital partners. In a world in which toxic masculinity is praised and encouraged, being a male ally to end sexual violence can be challenging. Please see the resources below to help you in your journey. We need you, because as Tony Porter states “If women could end violence against women and girls by themselves, they would have done it already.”

Men as Allies

"Preventing sexual violence starts with what we teach our boys."
-Unknown

COACHES

Coaches

“Coaches consistently rank as the #1 positive influence in today’s youth.”
-Futures Without Violence

"My coach said I run like a girl, and I said if he ran a little faster he could, too"
-Mia Hamm, US retired professional soccer player, two-time Olympic gold medalist, and two-time FIFA Women's World Cup champion

Sports are a significant part of US culture, and research has proven that coaches and peer athletes play an influential role in kids' lives — one that can not only transform their attitudes and behaviors toward sexual violence but actually help to decrease and prevent dating abuse. Adolescents tend to spend a lot of time with their coaches and hold them in high regard, giving coaches a rare opportunity to model positive behavior. Please see the resources below to help you use your influence to create safer communities where men and boys learn that being strong means speaking out against comments and behaviors that lead to sexual and dating abuse.

SCHOOL TEACHERS

Teachers play a vital role in their students' academic and emotional and social development. For some kids, teachers are their closest allies and safest adults. This type of influence provides a tremendous opportunity for building student self-esteem and to model with them, healthy communication, boundaries, and respect. In other words, school teacher’s can play a vital role in sexual violence prevention. Please see below for resources on ways to engage your students in sexual violence prevention activities.

“Sexual harassment and assault occur in all kinds of schools, regardless of location. Remember that students have come to endure sexual harassment as a normal part of their school experience, even though it interferes with their learning and takes an emotional toll. Most parents aren’t aware of the risks that all children face.” - Ending K-12 Sexual Harassment: A Toolkit for Parents and Allies/Stop Sexual Assault in Schools

School Teachers

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”
-Frederick Douglass, American social reformer, abolitionist, orator, writer, and statesman

COMMUNITY EDUCATORS & LEADERS

Community Educators & Leaders

"Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them."
-Lady Bird Johnson. American socialite and the First Lady of the United States as the wife of the 36th President of the United States, Lyndon B. Johnson

“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”
- Dr. Seuss, American Children’s Author 

After school staff, youth group leaders, camp counselors, LGBTQ Center staff, community educators, and the like, provide safe spaces and growth opportunities for youth. These community members often connect with youth in a more personal and relaxed way than teachers and parents/guardians; almost like a peer rather than authority figure. Such relationships can create opportunities for teens to be more open and vulnerable to both learning and sharing. As such, these community leaders have a key role in engaging kids in discussions and activities that can lead to decreased sexual and dating violence. Please see resources below.

Resources for Adults Working with Teens to Prevent Sexual Violence

Website

Author/Organization: Usable Knowledge

Resource Type: Website

Age: Elementary School, Middle School, High School

Topics: LGBTQ+, community educators, consent, male survivors, men & boys, men as allies, prevention, school teachers, sexual harassment, sexual violence/rape

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Author/Organization: George Mason University

Resource Type: PDF

Age: College, Middle School, High School

Topics: Community educators & leaders, coaches, consent, men as allies, prevention, school teachers, sexual violence/rape

Video

Resource Type: Video

Age: College, High School

Topics: Community educators & leaders, Cyber bullying, athletes, bystander, coaches, consent, men & boys, men as allies, prevention, school teachers, sexual violence/rape, social media

Website

Author/Organization: The New York Times

Resource Type: Website

Age: Middle School, High School

Topics: Cyber bullying, LGBTQ+, bullying, male survivors, sexual harassment, social media, statistics

Website

Author/Organization: Culture of Respect

Resource Type: Website

Age: College, Middle School, High School

Topics: BIPOC, Community educators & leaders, LGBTQ+, activity, bystander, coaches, consent, men & boys, men as allies, prevention, school teachers, sexual violence/rape, video

Website

Author/Organization: Culture of Respect

Resource Type: Website

Age: College, High School

Topics: bystander, community educators, consent, men & boys, men as allies, prevention, school teachers, sexual violence/rape, social norms

Video

Author/Organization: Clinton Foundation

Resource Type: Video

Age: Middle School, High School

Topics: Community educators & leaders, activity, athletes, coaches, dating violence, men & boys, men as allies, prevention, school teachers, video

Website

Author/Organization: One Love

Resource Type: Website

Age: College, Middle School, High School

Topics: Community educators & leaders, boundaries, communication, healthy relationships, men and boys, men as allies, school teachers

Video

Author/Organization: Ted Talk

Resource Type: Video

Age: College, Middle School, High School

Topics: Community educators & leaders, activity, coaches, consent, men & boys, men as allies, school teachers, sexual violence/rape, video

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Author/Organization: Humboldt State University

Resource Type: PDF

Age: College, High School

Topics: Community educators & leaders, activity, consent, school teachers, sexual violence/rape

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